We can’t hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can love.
— Lori Deschene
You become what you think about all day long
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?"
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.
“I don’t much care where –” said Alice.
“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat.
“– so long as I get somewhere,” Alice added as an explanation.
“Oh, you’re sure to do that,” said the Cat, “if you only walk long enough.
— Lewis Carroll - Alice in Wonderland (1865)
my life improved like 1000% when i stopped pretending that society had no influence on my behaviors and thought patterns and instead focused on unlearning that shit rather than coming up w/ reasons to defend it
Someone once told me that human beings have three dimensions: how you see yourself, how others see you, and how you want others to see you. The closer the distance between the three dimensions, the more at peace you are and the more stable you become.
— Marwa Rakha, The Poison Tree